One of my young friends wants to get divorced. It it breaking my heart and ruining my happiness.
I can’t bear the idea if all the misery she will have to undergo lifelong.
No generation will learn from the previous ones.
It is a lonely life with so little support, so much humiliation, so much pain and no one on your side.
I guess her marriage feels exactly like this, else why wd she want to get out? Who wd want to leave companionship, support, honour and partnership and even more love?
I guess I feel that outside misery is guaranteed and in a marriage there is hope. And she feels that outside there is hope and in a marriage there is misery.
Perhaps some lives are hopeless whether in or out of marriage because we dont know our self-interest and we don’t know how to improve our lives.
I feel I am being invited to suffer the same misery all over again, and I can’t take it.
Maybe our friendship too will end with her divorce, i cannot bear to “see this movie” again.
Author : Satya Sarada Kandula : All Rights Reserved
Comments on: "Sigh" (2)
“Perhaps some lives are hopeless whether in or out of marriage because we dont know our self-interest and we don’t know how to improve our lives.”
I concur with you. Most of us tend to value other’s opinion of ourselves than our own lives. Simply put it’s not the want that is root of grief but vanity. And one more…. why is that we always value this marriage thingy too much when we should actually be valuing love?
Madam Satya,
Hope, I believe, is an uncertainity, whether in a marriage or outside of marriage! This might be a case of “the grass always looks greener on the other side! But, if a person is tormented in his/her marriage, should he/she continue to bear it in the hope that one day, suddenly, the “life-partner” would turn around and be the lover? Would it not be better to reign in hell than to serve in heaven?
Also, i found your final comment on continuing your frienship a little disturbing. If you know the story all too well, I hope you will never discontinue your friendship or let her discontinue it and leave her all alone, when you mentioned that there would be a lot of pain, humiliation and loneliness in the life of a divorcee.
Sincerely,
An idler