Calming thoughts

Generally beautiful birds, delicious fruit etc only make us happy.

Much of my unhappiness has to do with other people., their minds and their inconsiderateness in general.

My present goal is to transform the thoughts generated by the actions/speech/presence of other people into calming thoughts.

My guru does this by forgiving people quickly, having no expectations of others, and always finding an excuse for others before they can even think of one for themselves. Thus others really can’t touch her peace of mind.

I characteristically beome upset.

On one hand I believe that no one can wilfully change what happens to another. So no one can really harm or help or even effect anyone other than themselves.

On the other hand, I am upset that people should “want” to harm or “not care if” you are hurt.

It is their minds that trouble me.

Their minds can effect my mind and cause my mind pain. Some people are malicious, many are inconsiderate and a few are loving…

I have long worked out that focussing on the divine is joyous and focussing on human minds is depressing… but other human minds will do everything in their power to attract you to their misery/malice/anger etc. Other human minds wish to affect how you feel about them and about the universe.

I think the first step is detection.

Second step is to replace whatever though they are trying to plant in your mind with another calming thought.

Currently one of my nephews got a job. This is a calming thought. He has had a very hard life and this will help him!

I like it when people do well. I like to see harmony in families. I like it when people are nice to me and to each other.

I don’t like to be lonely for long stretches of time.. and yet I am scared of the society of others. I need the society of nice people. Well mannered, thoughtful, considerate, who focus on making the person with them comfortable and happy. I like such interactions.

I like such movie and books.

My previous guru used to say that one must look at the childlike hearts of others, their needs and not at their minds. If we look at the hearts of others we shall feel only love…